Tuesday, April 19, 2011

How do you do this anyway?

I was in a committed relationship for 15 years, and now I'm not. I find it particularly challenging to meet lesbians just for friendship, let alone trying to find some my age, who are single, and I actually want to date. So, I do what most folks are doing these days. I turned to Match.com. Let me just say, this, too, has been a challenge. It's not that the ladies on Match.com aren't wonderful people and charming. It's that many of them seem to fit a physical stereotype that I'm just not comfortable with. I have some sense of pride in that I'm sporty, but feminine. I like to look like a girl, wear girl clothes, even a dress at times and put on some lipstick. I like to act like a girl too. I like to have doors opened for me. And I expect that any potential dates would like this too. For women, I see this as a shared responsibility. Anything less puts me in a weird role-playing, who's-the-boy-in-the-duo thing that I just won't have any part of. So, where are these women who are more like me?